Sometimes it’s hard to be a man. Men are expected to be tough, protective, supportive, kill spiders and unscrew tight lids on jars. Too much of that can leave a guy feeling stressed, sometimes depressed and misunderstood.
These are huge responsibilities for anyone, especially for men who have historically been pressured into not showing emotion — or made to feel inadequate or burned out by the weight of the world. Fortunately, there are ways you can perk him up, get him out of his funk… and remind him that he’s still the man.
Here are some great gifts to get a guy when he’s down and out.
“I’m not really into technology” … said no man, ever. You don’t have to be a Bill Gates or Steve Jobs to appreciate how convenient and helpful the latest tech gadgets are. Smartphones and tablets, Bluetooth and wireless cards have all revolutionised the way we live, let alone how we do business and are entertained.
If you know a guy who’s feeling down, a simple gift of a new toy (even just a more recent version of something he already has) will not only give him something to take his mind off his troubles; it’s practical, and will make him the envy of his friends.
If a man’s home is his castle, then how he gets around — whether it’s a bicycle, a motorbike, or a car — is his noble steed. How we get around says a lot about who we are as people, and a gift that acknowledges that will be greatly appreciated, especially if it comes at just the right moment.
Get a gift that is not only useful for his car, motorcycle, or bicycle, but one that has a personal touch, so he knows you aren’t making fun of him for how much he loves his ride. And if he rides the bus, no worries: buy him a month’s worth of bus or train tickets.
When life starts to get too heavy, there’s nothing better than getting away from it all. Gorgeous mountain trails, bright blue skies, and no blasting horns, bickering clients or relatives, or endless phone ringtones of everyday life.
If your man hears the call of the wild, help him on his way. Get him a pair of hiking boots to replace the old ones he never got around to getting rid of; a pair of digital binoculars, so not only will he be able to see those stunning views from afar, he can record them for posterity, as well; perhaps even a new GPS unit — he won’t get lost, and it’ll be something he can put to good use in everyday life too!
More and more men like to cook: the kitchen is no longer the domain of the women. It’s hard enough battling the rigors of a 9-to-5 job, but the men who enjoy cooking have to deal with whispers about gender roles and emasculation from their less-supportive menfolk. It can get a guy down.
You can show him you appreciate and value his culinary contributions by getting him a gift that doesn’t patronise or condescend to his enjoyment of cooking (so no novelty aprons), but a gift that respectfully encourages him to go into that kitchen and be the best cook he can be.
For the kid in him
Men are complex creatures, but somewhere inside, there’s still a 15-year old who loves to play with toys. These might be DVDs of a TV show he’s always wanted to watch, but never got around to buying himself.
Or the toys might be more literal: a rare action figure to complete his collection, say, or the model train he’s been saving up to buy. Whatever his fancy, getting him that gift will make the child in him love you forever, and cheer him up when he’s down and out.
Tell us what you think…
Guys, what do you do to cheer yourself up?
Ladies, what do you do to cheer your man up?